For many people, the struggle with pornography raises a confusing and deeply personal question: Is porn addiction real? Some voices claim pornography is simply a bad habit. Others say it’s just a moral or religious issue. But many individuals describe something different. They want to stop, they try to stop, and yet they find themselves returning to pornography again and again. Modern neuroscience has begun exploring this question more seriously. While researchers continue to

Men often ask me if there are resources that can help them process through the 12 steps. In addition to 12 step workbooks, this book list was created as a supplement to support that journey, drawing on both clinical wisdom and spiritual insight . This is not meant to be overwhelming or prescriptive, but rather give you varied voices of trusted mentors that can walk alongside you through the 12-step process. The first book I encourage men to pick up as they start a 12 step re

Recovery isn’t about being perfect; it’s about becoming skillful. Skill comes from practice, and practice gets better when you study it. That’s why I often tell clients: be a scientist about your addiction. Don’t just white-knuckle and hope. Observe, measure, test, and learn. Scientists don’t shame data; they use it. You can, too. Think about your GPS. When you make a wrong turn, it doesn’t yell, “You idiot!” It calmly says, “Recalculating,” and shows you the next best rout

I’ve spent many hours alongside men wrestling with unwanted sexual behaviors and walked alongside their spouses who’ve felt the heartbreak of betrayal. In hundreds of coaching sessions and support groups, one truth rings out: willpower alone isn’t enough when our devices are gateways to temptation . Countless hours of research into porn blocker software and accountability apps have shown me that without robust digital safeguards, even the most determined recovery plan can c

The reality is that addiction is not simply a matter of willpower; it’s a complex interplay of neurobiology, trauma, and learned behaviors. When the shadow self is in control, rational thought and healthy decision-making are often sidelined.....

You’re not going to tackle this addiction unless you admit that it is a real issue. Real problems need real solutions. That means a willingness to do whatever is necessary to solve the problem...

As an expert recovery coach, I've witnessed firsthand the challenges that individuals with sexual addiction face on their journey toward...