Formal Full Disclosure

We begin with separate sessions. I work with the disclosing partner to create a clear and complete disclosure letter—not every detail, but the full truth. I also work closely with the betrayed partner to help you get grounded, ask the questions you need to ask, and prepare emotionally for what’s coming.  Working through this preparation separately ensures that each partner is ready for the disclosure session.  This typically takes eight sessions for each partner.

Once you’re both ready, we’ll come together for the disclosure itself. The disclosing partner reads their letter while the betrayed partner listens and is able to ask questions. This happens in a guided, calm, and safe setting where emotional safety is the priority. You’ll both be supported every step of the way.

For many couples, a polygraph can be an important part of the Full Disclosure process. It's not about punishment, it's about peace of mind. A polygraph helps the betrayed partner feel confident that what was shared is the full truth. If you choose to include a polygraph, I’ll help coordinate it with a certified examiner and guide both of you in preparing for it. It’s used after the disclosure letter has been shared and is based on specific, clear questions tied to that letter.

The Full Disclosure session isn’t the finish line—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. After the disclosure (and optional polygraph), we move into intentional follow-up support to help both partners process what’s been shared and begin to rebuild trust.

For the betrayed partner, this often looks like creating space to process the emotional impact of what you’ve heard. It’s a time to be grounded in your own reality, speak your truth, and continue getting the support you need. You’ll have ongoing guidance to help you navigate the waves of emotion that can follow disclosure—without being overwhelmed or alone.

For the disclosing partner, this is a time to stay engaged, listen well, and continue taking ownership of your healing work. The focus shifts from confessing to changing—doing the work that supports long-term sobriety and character transformation.

As your coach, I stay closely involved during this phase to make sure both of you feel supported, seen, and steady as you take the next steps forward.