Recovery isn’t about being perfect; it’s about becoming skillful. Skill comes from practice, and practice gets better when you study it. That’s why I often tell clients: be a scientist about your addiction. Don’t just white-knuckle and hope. Observe, measure, test, and learn. Scientists don’t shame data; they use it. You can, too. Think about your GPS. When you make a wrong turn, it doesn’t yell, “You idiot!” It calmly says, “Recalculating,” and shows you the next best rout

In the course of my work, I hear men say all the time that they no longer watch pornography, but in my time with them, I can tell their minds are still clouded. One of the issues that I see is that men don’t know how to define pornography. Pornography can be anything you want it to be. That’s why it’s important to define what pornography is in relation to sobriety...

It’s very easy to start recovery as if you’re looking up from the bottom of Mt. Everest. It seems like sobriety is a mountain that you have to climb and conquer. If your mountaintop experience is being sober, you’ll likely never have the motivation to continue your recovery. By pursuing the very thing that you desire, you’ll lose it...

As an expert recovery coach, I've witnessed firsthand the challenges that individuals with sexual addiction face on their journey toward...